Hello everyone! I'm new at trying out this community thing so bear with me here. I would like some advice for a situation, but I will fill you in on my back story since most of you probably don't know me. I'm 20 and I have been single for 3 long years. Ever since my last relationship (which was my first one), it has been killing me that I haven't gotten another girlfriend. What's the big deal about having a girlfriend? It makes me feel a whole lot better about myself, and I really like spending time with a person I'm fond of. Why haven't I gotten a girlfriend in the last 3 years? I'm an extremely shy guy. I have a very hard time (usually) approaching girls that I like, especially ones I don't know. I feel that I'm a generally nice guy who's caring, loving, and emotionally strong. In other words, I'm the kind of guy most women want but can't find. Anyways, here's my problem. I'm sick of being lonely; but like I said, I have a hard time approaching girls I like but don't know. I mean, college is just such a different scenario than high school. I had little trouble talking to a girl in high school because more than likely I knew her. College is harder since it includes area-wide students I've never met before. I live in a small county with very few things to do so it's hard to hone in on a great hookup spot. I guess what I'm asking advice on is if you can tell me what to do and say to a girl I've never met before but I find attractive. How could I do this toward a girl I find attractive in one of my classes? Also, if I were to bump into someone attractive at a local hangout spot how could I talk to that person (who is a complete stranger)? Do you see the difference in what I'm talking about? One situation, college, deals with a girl I've seen regularly in class; while the other, local hangout, deals with a complete stranger. If anyone could give me advice on this ASAP, I would greatly appreciate it. If you give me advice on the complete stranger situation, please give me some confidence in actually going out to find someone. I have a hard time grasping any confidence to do that. If there are any questions, please leave a reply or e-mail me.